Thank God for my family! My husband, kids, sisters, brother, parents, brother and sister-in-laws, father-in-laws, and so on! I always knew the truth but now I'm just shouting it out loud. I know that my sisters and brother all know what I'm talking about. We have no true friends! Don't get me wrong in the pass four years since I have been with Mike I have meet very good friends. Ones I know we'll someday end up being a true friend. For now the ones I thought I had, have faded into the distance. I should have known it was going to be this way. I never fitted in, in the beginning. I'm still the odd ball out. I'm not rich, not married in the temple. I don't judge people by the car they drive. I don't spend all of our money to keep up with the Willy's, or the Saveges (no offence to them). Just saying. I love being tattooed! I'm just so happy that I moved out of Happy Valley. Maybe I'll make a rule from now on don't try to fit in cause it will never work. Jen, Sara, and Mike its something in are blood that makes us walk alone. I don't know why but it is inevitable.
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Whitni, I love you for who you are and always have. It takes a lot of effort to keep up friendships and I admit I haven't done a great job with any of my friends. I'm truly sorry for that. But I take offense when you say something so offensive (it doesn't make it hurt less by saying "no offense"). You have severely misjudged me here and it's clear you don't know much about my life over the past several years either.
K
Uh--oh! You pissed someone off Whit!...Well, some things are said and people personalize it...anyway, I know what you mean and how you feel. Nothing wrong with it...blood is thick and that is just how we Roll!
Love ya'!
sadly this is the first time I've ever looked at your blog..
I want you to know that since the fifth grade I've loved you specifically because you're so unique & never cared what people thought so I'm very sad to see this. I think by classifying ALL of us as "judgemental" you've done just that very thing yourself. The thing I love about our friends is that I don't feel I have to "keep up" with any of them, no matter what they accept me. Tattoos & temple marriage have nothing to do with how or why I love my friends.
Some of our friends are going through the hardest times in their lives right now...no one has it easy & money doesn't mean anything to them & what truly makes them happy.
All in all I'm overly-emotional & 37+ weeks pregnant right now but I want you to know you are loved (17+ years now
It's funny to me that you think you can say very hurtful, rude things and expect me to continue to have a friendship, when there have not been any kind of an apology ever made.. It is quite obvious that you do not know me and what I value. I do feel so blessed to have amazing friends.. & I do not have certain people in my life because of what they have or dont have..I love them for exactly themselves.. (friends & family!) you are judging me by saying I'm judging others, and quite honestly I don't love my friends for their cars, their tattoos, or their temple marriages. I love my friends for who they are & the values they have. Whitney you get good friends by being a good one. I hope you do have some good friends now and that you can be a good friend to them because if you treat them like you've treated us then they will "fade away" into the distance too.. if I've ever hurt your feelings I would have hope that you would have come to me directly.
Defending my little sis...
All I know is even if Whit has had clashes with people over this, I know what she was writing was way more personal than making judgement calls. Even if we spout off once in awhile, we are all good people.
But, My sis and other syblings share a flaw and gift of always existing outside.
We are fierce, straight talking and the first to defend...but, rarely attack others.
My sister is unique and kind, and if you hurt her she will not pretend to your face and then talk behind your back. You know where you stand with us.
But, also...
I think my syblings are some of the most forgiving and accepting people you will ever meet.
Sure we are firecrackers and we will not hesitate to go all Alpha Female if our brood feels threatened.
But, we are easily able to love and respond to honesty.
Don't take what my Sis and over Personalize it!
I think she was speaking more about something with in her/us that comes from the heart.
the funny thing is that I wasn't talking about either of you as being the judgment. I was saying that people try and keep up with you two. I defantly relate to others and not to others. If you feel that i'm talking about you then I wonder why. I wasn't talking about any of you. So it I"m sorry that you guys would autimaticly assume that.
Shay, you've never looked at my blog before, and the first time you do you assume i'm talking about you? I'm sorry. You maybe married in the temple but it was an example. The only two who could say anything is Kamile and Kate because I was using them as an example of what kind of people, other people try and keep up with. Not them personaly.
Jenny, you are the only one who understude any of what I wrote. Funny how that was exaclty what I was talking about. Love you!
I know sis!
Love you tonz!
You know what....i've been thinking the last 20min. I'm realy upset! First Kamile I love you! You i think have more things in common with me then most of the girls.
Katie, you say you have good friends by being a good friend. This is very true. the funny thing is I drive to you guys a much as I can with full time school and money. Anytime I'm informed about something I try and come. This may not be very often, however, anytime I have invited someone from Utah county no one has shown. Not for any of Luca's birhtday party's or most recently Isaacs. Only a handfull came to my wedding. I decided not to invite anyone to Isaac's baptism other then stacy because I knew you would not bother!
Thanks Whit. I love you too. I definitely read your blog post thinking you meant that I was money-hungry and judgmental, but if you say it isn't so then I believe you. Though this post is clearly talking about our friends and so when our friends read it they are going to assume you are talking about them. If you have problems with individuals you should just tell them who they are.
I'm sorry I haven't come to any of your parties. I'll try harder in the future.
K
Wow, didn't you stir up a bees nest!
I think that a lot of people don’t understand when we talk about being different. ‘Us’ Wilsons got something in our blood that makes us different. And it’s hard to explain, cuz it’s just a different mind set. A mind set that was often not had while we lived in Utah County. And although we don't point our fingers at anyone (because that’s not the point), we feel a distance, massive pressure and guilt from being the black sheep in the suburbs of Mormonville. Like we were tainted? Or as I call it on a different wave length, we think differently, we have liberated our selves from a world where unfortunately there is a lot of judgment and hate. I got told in 2nd grade by a friend that if I kept swearing she couldn't be friends with me. I also got told that if I lived my life style…which made me happy I would be ‘fired’ from the church. Why focus on so much fucking black and white? Why? Why always look for the bad? I like our tattooed cluster fuck of a family and thank god for it! I love all the fuck ups of the world and cherish the fact that I work at a job where I get to see real fuck up…I mean real ones…but I fucking love them with all my heart. I don’t care where they have been or what they do. I just get them. We have been pooped on by too many Mormons to fit in their teeny tiny little box. I mean according to the 'philosophy' we grew up with I'm definitely going to hell, because I like the ladies and they don't understand. We are misfits! And thank god for that! It helps us find a new level of compassion and empathy for our fellow man. We see things for the truth and we forgive easily. We’ve also got mouths like fuck’n sailors and are total smart asses! We will speak up when we have too, especially when it comes to each other. I respect Mormons and how hard they believe in Jebus…but…damn…
We have struggled. It doesn't mean we didn't have some very close and special friends...but for the most part...even they don't get us. It’s a lonely world sometimes for us. But... we are really cute and very fucking tight!
Peace Out Bitches!
P.S. Your sister Sara by the way!!!!
Amen sister Sara. This blog was not about shitting on anyone. Thats why I didn't call anything on any certain person, because it was about me getting off my chest my secret lonelyness. Not lonelyness of family but of people who love me because the choose. Not because their blood runs through me. Mike is the only one that feels that void. However, sometimes i still cry because I know he may be the only one. Out of all the world only one person who isn't in my family truly knows me and truly loves me. I'm so grateful for that but sometimes I wish I had my best friend around who knows my ever move and I know hers, and I can tell her everthing. I got my sisters for that. I've come to terms that they along with mike will be the only ones. I've lost that best friend, even if she is still my best friend. Things have just changed, and I didn't want them to.
After re-reading this I can definatley see I was "assuming" and that YES infact I'm overly-emotional from being pregnant...
and Aaron, my husband, agrees that he too would never live in Happy Valley even though his lovely wife came from there.
I was really feeling that loneliness at the same time ending my marriage...I still feel hurt over a few things that also happened in friendships...but, only a little! You are lucky to be loved by Mike, besides your awesome sisters, I suspect that we will always have to be careful not to count on much else...and, that is okay...
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